Revolution of Love

Revolution of Love

Do small things with great love.

My September 2014 Goals

It is nearly mid-month so I guess I had better finally finish this post about my monthly goals. šŸ˜‰ It’s a little funny that my last few posts have all been about setting goals when two months ago my big daily goal was just getting through the day without losing my mind and maybe managing to wash and dry one load of laundry (and try not to forget to put the clothes in the dryer until they smell so bad I have to rewash them.)

Someone who just started reading my blog in the past week may think, wow, she has it so together with her planner and goal making. Well, girl, you have no idea how wrong that impression is! Seriously, this summer has just been super busy, super stressful and by the time August rolled around I felt I was going to explode. Everything was in chaos – the house, my spiritual life, my budget, my diet, everything! Top that off with a husband trying to get through the last difficult rounds of his chemo and, well, you get the idea.

My life was craving some order and direction. Thankfully, whenever I get like this God always sends just what I need to help me get back on track. As I mentioned in a previous post, I finished Lara Casey’s Powersheets and did all the prep work before choosing my five Main Goals I want to work on over the next six months.Ā  My September goals are things that will help me eventually reach the Main Goals.

“Make known to me your ways, O Lord; teach me your paths.” Psalms 25:4

Main Goal #1: To always have God at the center of my life and to deepen my love for Him. I want his will to be my will and motivation.

September Goals

  • I have done much better in improving my night prayer so this month I am focusing on bettering my morning prayer/devotion time. There is a small window of 20 minutes that I have between getting the older kids off to school and before getting Matthew ready for pre school when I can pray my morning devotion.
  • Monthly confession.

 

“With this ring, I thee wed…”

Main Goal #2 – To be a loving and holy wife to Brian and to work at keeping our marriage strong. I want to spend more time with him to strengthen not only our love but our friendship.

September Goals

  • Spend time each day to talk and touch base, preferably after the kids have gone to bed. Also, I’ll ask Brian questions and let him talk without monopolizing the conversation.
  • Plan weekly date nights. They can be at home dates but at least one date a month should be out of the house.
  • Find a second sitter since our normal sitter is so busy with college now.

 

My inspiration shot – This is what my kitchen could looks like when I clear off all the messy counters.

Main Goal #3 – To bring order into our home so I am not stressed out by the mess and chaos. When things are organized our family life runs smoother and there is more peace.

September Goals

  • Make a master list of all the areas in the house that need to be cleaned out or organized. Instead of getting overwhelmed by it all, I will tackle small bits on Fridays since that is the day I have a few hours at home without needing to be anywhere else.
  • Make a weekly cleaning schedule for maintenance. For example, the laundry gets insane if I don’t do at least one load every day or so. Wednesdays are the days I have an hour window at home so I can assign housework on those days.

One of the kids favorite outings is to the Monterey Bay Aquarium.

Main Goal #4 – To be a good mother that loves her kids and spends time with them and is not always “too busy.” I want to teach them about their faith and how to love and serve God in their young lives.

September Goals

  • Plan bi-weekly outings as a family. The off weeks can be spent playing with them in the backyard searching fossils or blowing bubbles or having a picnic on the deck.
  • Update the kids’ chore chart to give them more responsibility around the house. Go back to the sticker reward charts since they seem to work well.
  • Incorporate 1-2 church feast days into family life.

Along the Monterey Recreation Trail.

Main Goal #5 – To take care of myself physically, spiritually and mentally so I can be a happy and healthy wife, mother and friend. Taking care of myself mentally also means challenging myself to come out of my comfort zone and facing my fears.

September Goals

  • Daily hydrate, take vitamins and walk for 20-30 min. Use my Fitbit to keep track.
  • Now that I signed up as a room mom, use the opportunity to approach other moms and get to know them. There may be new friendships waiting to be made. šŸ™‚

It may seem a bit lofty but I have six months to make progress and at the end of each month I’ll evaluate what’s working and what needs to be tweaked. I have good days – like today – and bad days like yesterday when everything was going wrong and I was losing it big time. So goes life. Thanks to God’s grace and mercy, I have been able to pick myself up, dust myself off and keep going. I also scheduled confession for Saturday morning. The extra boost of grace is just what I need. šŸ˜‰

What are you going to work on this month?

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14 Days of Love Notes (& Free Love Note Printable)

Happy February! Now that Brian is home from the hospital, I am relishing my time with him. I want to remind him how much he means to me and how there are so many little things I love about him. (Why does it take a crisis to make us realize just how blessed we are??) Anyway, I decided to write him little love notes… 14 to be exact, in honor of Valentine’s Day. (Of course this can, and should, be done any time of the year but it is especially appropriate this month. šŸ™‚

First I sat down and made a list of 14 things I love about Brian.

Then I created a Word Doc with small love notes that I can cut out.

Then I filled out each note with one of the reasons on my master list.

I liked the idea so much that I decided I’m going to do the same thing for each of the kids, although since I have 4 people in that category, I think I’ll do 7 days of love notes instead of 14. I changed the graphic to a mama and baby owl. šŸ™‚

On Valentine’s day I’ll give each person their master list in my Valentine’s Day card to them.

If you’d like to make a copy of the Love Notes Printable, you can get it from my Google Drive folder here. (Note: When I printed it, it came out a little blurry compared to my regular Word Doc. Maybe it’ll be better if I learn how to put it in a PDF format next time. :-)) Either way, enjoy and share the love. šŸ™‚

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When He Wants to Fix It and You Just Want A Hug

I have been enjoying the relaxing, slower pace of summer but I have to admit that the first few days of summer vacation I was going nuts trying to work on all the summer projects I had planned while also taking care of four kids that were running around bouncing off the walls. I was complaining to Brian that I just couldn’t do any of the projects I wanted to do and that 24/7 with the kids was driving me insane and was it too late to sign them all up for summer camp…yada, yada, yada. I was hoping for a sympathetic hug and instead he suggested that I forget all the projects and just relax and do a little bit each day. He also suggested that I organize my day a little and then the kids would have a routine and they wouldn’t be so wild.

My reaction? I just stared at him as I felt my blood pressure rise. My mind was saying, “You want me to frickin do what?” Instead of my sympathetic hug and a “I don’t know how you do it” comment, I got his annoyingly calm, simplistic advice on how to fix what I was doing wrong. Ugh! That was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I was MAD.Ā  And I let him know I was mad.

Thankfully, as quickly as I fire up I also cool down fairly quickly. I knew I had to apologize for getting mad at him when he was just trying to help. We had a nice talk and agreed to compromise. The next time I go off on something he knows that he needs to let me get it off my chest and just hug me. Afterwards, he can gently offer his advice. In return, when he give his suggestion to fix the problem I must bite my tongue and smile sweetly and say I’ll give it a try. šŸ˜‰

Well, the next day I reluctantly tried his suggestion and again the day after that and the day after that. And guess what? It worked! I shelved all the big projects and just did a little bit here and there. I set up an easy daily routine that was flexible enough to work around upcoming lessons/camps or appointments. So far I haven’t accomplished a heck of a lot but we are enjoying our relaxing summer and having fun together. And really, isn’t that what it’s all about?

So in the end, the compromise allowed me to get the empathy I needed and allowed him to give me a fix to the problem (when I was ready to hear it.) It doesn’t always work out so neatly but marital life is more peaceful when you humble yourself,Ā  talk it out,Ā  and think of the needs of your spouse.

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PS – This youtube video deals with this subject and it is hilarious. šŸ™‚

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Operation Clean & Organize: Master Bedroom (Part 1) Meets {p, h, f, r} – vol 51


**Taming the procrastinating, ADD, mess cat within me.**
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~ Capturing the context of contentment in everyday life ~

 

Before I get into any photos, let me give you a little background…

Why the Bedroom? – For a long time the “master bedroom” has been on my list of organizing projects to tackle but it has been low on the list of cleaning priorities because no one really spends time in there during the day or when company is over. However, this week Leila at Like Mother, like Daughter gave us a challenge for this week’s {pretty, happy, funny, real}. I went back and read her original post about cleaning the master bedroom entitled The Reasonably Clean House: Did you guess that we’d start in your bedroom? She beautifully explains why we should start in the bedroom:

The reason is simple, but profound. Your home has many areas that express family life, but your bedroom expresses the foundational relationship between you and your spouse — the inner sanctum where the sacrament of your marriage is consecrated and continually renewed with the conjugal gift.

If it weren’t for the intimate aspect of your commitment, your family would not be. God has ordained it so. It was that way from the very start. It has always been that way. It always will be that way.

That reality should be expressed in your respect for this physical place, for your body, for the body of your husband. Your first steps should be to make the room — the bed and the places for your clothes — truly orderly. (Read the rest here.)

A Little Sanctuary – As I was reading this I thought about Brian and all he does for me and for the family. He works so hard and puts up with all our craziness and although he never shows it, I know there are times when he just longs to be able to sit and read or write or pray in quiet. I wanted to make an area in our bedroom where he could do that. So with that in mind, I started my quest.

DĆ©jĆ  vu – Back in June when I wrote a post about NFP and Hallie’s challenge to make a Rockin’ Love Nest, I worked on clearing our bedroom up. The corner of my room holding the baby’s unused crib was my biggest problem. It looked like this in June.

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Then I put everything away and it looked like this.


Fast forward a few months, and we had all the carpets in our house cleaned except the master bedroom. (The carpet was still new in this room so didn’t need cleaning yet.) That meant that everything from the other rooms went into our bedroom. That was a month ago yet the corner of the room still looked like this as of yesterday morning.


I figured that the only way to stop my habit of using the empty crib as storage/dumping ground was to get rid of the crib. Matthew didn’t sleep in it anymore and I didn’t see any babies coming in the near future (did I just tempt Murphy’s Law?) so I put everything away and took the crib down.

I then moved Brian’s small desk in front of the window where there is a view of our tree and the mountains surrounding our little valley. I added to the corner the small shelves (that used to hold video cassettes…remember those?) and the extra chair that sat at the opposite end of the room.
Here is the result.

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{happy}

I love all the little details that helped add to the corner.

I placed on the wall two picture frames I bought at Target ages ago. They have been waiting in my closet for me to get my butt in gear. In the first one I placed family photos.

In the second one I put a couple of my Instagram photos. (Unfortunately, I made note cards with my favorites and this is all I had left.)

 


I also added Our Lady of Guadalupe.


I put some of Brian’s books on one shelf and mine on the other. (We have a ridiculous amount of books in our house but that’s another project.)

 


On top of Brian’s shelf I made him a little prayer corner with his favorite icon of St. Joseph, our icon of Our Lady that has accompanied us to the hospital at the birth of each of our children, the little rosary holders we received at our wedding and a fragrant candle that smells like autumn.

 


I am so happy with the results, but nothing could have given me greater pleasure than to hear Brian gush over the room. Anyone that knows Brian, knows he is not a gusher. I usually get a “that’s really nice” and that’s it. But he was really surprised and so pleased. He went on and on. Later that evening I heard him telling Bella, “Did you see how Mom fixed up our room? Doesn’t it look nice??” I couldn’t help but smile. It made it all worth the blood, sweat and tears to get there.

{funny}

I admit, it wasn’t an easy project. The worse part was at the half way point. I needed to leave and attend John-Paul’s parent teacher conference at school and I knew if I broke the momentum it would be hard to get back into it. (It’s like cleaning out your closet and once you move everything to the top of your bed you wish you never started the project in the first place. LOL.)

 


Plus, it was hard to clean when I had to stop every five minutes to check on the kids. JP kept himself relatively busy but Matthew was in rare form – he scribbled on a wall, dumped out cabinets, danced on the table, climbed into the dishwasher and broke a glass on the sink, spilled milk all over the floor, wrote on the tv with a crayon…just to name a few.

I also heard JP say, “No, no Matty!” which is my cue to see what mischief he is into. As it turned out he also found a new place to play. He was brushing his teeth IN the sink.

 


I could not figure out how he got in there! We have a low step stool for the boys to step on to wash their hands but it is too low for him to get that high. I put him down and watched him as he climbed up again. He was able place his toes on the small borders of the cabinet and hoist his chubby little body up onto the sink. I’ve got a future rock climber.
So that is this weeks’ edition of OC&O and {p, h, f, r}. I still have more to do in the bedroom but I’ll save it for next week. In the meantime, I’ll be heading to confession tomorrow. I chalked up a fair amount of cussing, anger and impatience in the last 24 hours. šŸ˜‰

 

PS – (11/10/12) This morning I received an email from Leila that said in part:

“Great job on your bedroom! You really transformed it, and I LOVE the prayer shelf on the bookcase. What a thoughtful touch!

I wanted to let you know that I would comment on your post, but I just can’t sign in to do it. There are so many posts, and so many of those ANNOYING verification things (that keep not working), and having to SIGN IN is the last straw. Just. Can’t. Do. It….”

LOL, a big thanks to Leila for her kind words. But I wanted to let you know, particularly the others who have emailed me about not being able to comment, that I am in the process of moving the blog over to WordPress. I hope to have the new blog up in a couple weeks, depending on how much free time I can squeeze out of my day… yeah, you better make that a few weeks. In the meantime, thanks for stopping by! xoxo!

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7 Quick Takes (7/13/12): Illness, Books, Family Beds & NFP

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I’m Feeling Dauncy – I wasn’t sure if I was going to do QT today since I am a little under the weather. On Wednesday I was up all night with what I thought was food poisoning, even though no one else in the family was really sick and we all basically ate the same thing. Brian said there is a flu bug that is going around and maybe I caught it. I don’t know. I went for my walk this morning and I barely made 1.3 miles. I am still a bit queasy, have a head ache and ache a little. Not really sick but not my normal self either. I double checked my NFP chart…just in case but it is very unlikely. So maybe I do have a bug. Hopefully it is short lived.

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Movie Date… without a date – Brian said I should get out of the house this weekend and just relax and go to the movies or something. (He knows how I love going to the movies.) I used to be phobic about going to places like the movies alone. I always wanted someone with me but ever since I was dying to see the Hunger Games last March, I went to the movies solo for the first time. I kinda loved it. I checked the movies playing at our local theater and all the movies I wanted to see aren’t playing anymore. How is that possible? They barely came out a few weeks ago. Well, I think it came down to either Magic Mike – not gonna happen – or Spiderman. So it may be me and Spidey this weekend.

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Summer Reading – Last year I started reading the book Rachel’s Contrition and although I was enjoying it, I switched over to a Kindle and started reading my books on there. The book was not available as an e-book so it was forgotten on my bookshelf. I found it recently and decided to old-school it and read it in the evenings with a book light. I really enjoyed the story. It is sad but there is a lot of hope and I loved the way St. Therese was helping Rachel to heal and change her way of thinking. I’d find myself during the day thinking, “Remember what St. Therese was saying in that book? You should try having the same attitude, Bobbi.” I have to remind myself like that. I have spiritual ADD.

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I’m A Big Boy Now – The reason I have time to read in the evening for 10-15 minutes is because we’ve switched sleeping arrangements for the kids. Bella used to sleep in the same room with Andrew because he would get afraid to be alone at night. John-Paul and Matthew slept in our room. By the time one of our kids is over two years old, we move them out of our room. JP was at the age but we waited until summer to transition him since we anticipated crying, sleepless nights and didn’t want to deal with that on school nights. I am pleased to say that the transition has gone great. After night prayers, teeth brushing, and book reading JP and Andrew are tucked in and ready to knock off. I turn off the light but to ease them into sleep I stay in the room 10 minutes (and read with my book light.) Slowly, the time is decreasing until I kiss them goodnight and just leave.

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WARNING: THIS IS A TMI – NFP TAKE SO SKIP IT IF THAT’S NOT YOUR THING. The other day Brian and I were laughing because when I talked about NFP in a previous post, I mentioned ways to get “in the mood” on green days. I now discovered a top way – transitioning out of the “family bed.” Having a sleeping baby in between you and your husband (literally) can dampen the mood. However, sleeping right next to my husband again has made any “prep time” unnecessary. I’m not saying a family bed is wrong, I am just saying the season after it is really, um, nice. I told Brian it is a good thing we have shared our bed these last twelve years or else we’d probably have 12 kids by now. Which makes me think…that queasiness I have been feeling…am I sure I’m not…no, I still don’t think I am.

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A Guy’s View – Speaking of NFP, I read two NFP posts this week that I really enjoyed. The first is from Camp Patton: Natural Family Planning: A Husband’s Perspective by Michael Hahn (As in Scott Hahn’s son.) It was nice to get a guy’s perspective of NFP. The second post is from Stephanie at Littles Make the World Go Round. Check out her NFP posts where she tells the story of how she got off the pill and placed her trust and fertility into the hands of God.

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Come, Holy Spirit – And speaking of controversial church teachings like the use of artificial contraception, here is an excellent article from Jen at Conversion Diary called A Conversation with My Gay Friend. To be honest with you, I struggle a great deal with church teaching about this subject but this is one of the best down to earth explanations I have read so far. Thankfully, in our faith journey you don’t have to completely understand (or completely agree with) a church teaching but you can humbly trust in the Church’s wisdom as you try to better understand and accept with both your head and your heart.

That’s it for today. Have a wonderful weekend!!

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