In the last post about my Summer Goals, I mentioned that I have been trying to do one act of kindness a day for Brian since he has been working long and stressful hours lately. Debbie left this comment on the post:
I was wondering what some examples of acts of kindness you are doing for your husband. My husband also has long work hours during this time of the year.
Great question! Instead of answering her in the combox, I am answering in this post. Here are 25 suggestions of act of kindness you can do for your hubby. The possibilities are endless and should be tailored to your husband’s personality and likes but this should give you a head start. Some of these I can do any day and at no cost. (Although holding my tongue and watching sports is sometimes painful.) 😉 Others are more “special” and less frequent since they require planning, scheduling and budgeting (like the dinner out or small gift.) However, all have worked well for me and gave a little “feeling-loved” boost to Brian as well.
25 Acts of Kindness for Your Husband
- Make his favorite dish for dinner.
- Do one of his usual household chores (such as throwing out the garbage or cleaning the toilets.)
- Watch a sports game with him.
- Let him talk without interrupting him.
- Make him his favorite dessert that you both can secretly share while the kids are asleep.
- Buy him a little something he’d enjoy – a book from his favorite author or a specialty brewed beer.
- Hug him and tell him how much you appreciate him.
- Give him possession of the remote and let him pick the show/movie.
- Send him a text just to tell him that you love him.
- Make him his morning coffee or bring him his favorite drink from the local coffee shop.
- Write him an old fashioned love letter telling him how much he means to you.
- Keep the kids occupied so he can have some quiet time when he gets home or on the weekend.
- Take him out to dinner or order take-out and let him pick the restaurant/food.
- Leave a post-it note on the bathroom mirror or in his car telling him something you love about him.
- Send him out of the house to go take a walk or grab a cup of coffee alone. (If he’s an extrovert, tell him to go out for pizza or a beer with the guys.)
- Wash his car or fill his tank with gas.
- Wake up early and make him breakfast.
- Have the kids pick up all the toys off the floor before he comes home from work.
- Greet him at the front door with a kiss instead of a barrage of complaints about your day.
- Hold your tongue when he is loading the dishwasher “wrong” or doing some other activity differently that you do.
- Compliment him in front of your kids or your friends.
- Thank him for a task you usually take for granted.
- Wear his favorite scent and flirt with him or steal a kiss and tell him how much you want him.
- Give him a massage (and whatever else comes to mind if you have an NFP “green light” in the bedroom.) 😉
- Pray for him.
If you hubby is also a father, Father’s Day is coming up and you could choose a dozen of these to do in the next 10 days and give him a card telling him why he deserves this TLC and how much you appreciate him. Or on Father’s Day give him the list and let him pick out his Top 10 Acts that you will do for him in the coming days. Use your imagination and have fun. 🙂
And one final note, a friend who reads my blog made a comment about how together I am with the things that I post about. I had to tell her that I don’t always have it together and that’s part of the reason why I blog. It helps motivate me and keeps me accountable to you. Case in point – last night I was completely fried after all the days of activity and stress and I got mad at Brian for something stupid and snapped at him. I walked out of the room and fumed at him while I did a late night load of laundry, otherwise the boys would be running around in their skivvies the next day. (A fact that they would love but me, not so much.)
As I loaded the washer, I thought about this very post. What was my act of kindness?? Acting like an arse? Sigh. I wrestled with myself and tried to rationalize that it was not my fault but by the time I closed the washer lid and pressed the ON button I knew I had to apologize for being a tired and stressed out jerk. Thankfully we kissed and made up and all was well again but it’s a constant battle to reign in my craziness. So don’t feel bad if you mess up. We’re all working at it. 😉
Anyway, I’d love more ideas so if you have a suggestion, leave a comment.
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